As is our custom here at EMN, today’s post is from the hilarious life experience of Sarah, A.K.A. “Mighty Mom.” Be sure to check out her blog at “My Wonderful Life.”
The number-one toughest thing about being a Mom is the colossal amount of GUILT that we carry. I’m not talking about simple regret, about things that I just wish I’d done different … I’m talking about true, haunt-your-dreams, cry in your pillow guilt.
Now, friends. Here’s my advice to you: Just Say NO to Mommy Guilt!
To help you gain perspective and win the battle, I’m gonna share with you things that I’ve felt guilty over.
- I’ve agonized over the times I lifted my 2lb weights during pregnancy — and after I miscarried, sure that the exercise had somehow harmed my child.
- Ditto the 2 Advil I broke down and took during the 8th month of pregnancy when my hips hurt so bad I couldn’t move or sleep.
- I chastized myself for the gallons of chocolate milk I drank every morning I was pregnant … and over the last 6 months my 4-year-old has refused any kind of milk EXCEPT Chocolate Milk!!
- I wept thinking of my 4-month-old breastfed baby, who CRIED FOR 20 MINUTES before my stepmother realized that the bottle I was trying to feed him needed to be warmer.
- I obsessed over the fact that my son was forced to wear a short-sleeve shirt (the only spare in his backpack) after getting his long-sleeved shirt all wet … and he was COLD ON THE PLAYGROUND!!! (Though it was NOT cold enough for me to have sent him wearing a jacket).
- In my battle with cradle cap, I scrubbed all my 1-month-old’s hair off.
- Putting the baby to bed, I found the cat asleep in the crib … and I didn’t change the sheets!
- I panicked when I found my kids watching movies (Berenstain Bears) that I HADN’T previewed!!
- I have 3 kids, the oldest of which is almost 5. And yet, I’ve ONLY ever made 3 pair of shorts. No other kids clothes!
- All 3 kids have had to wear those shorts so I can say they wore mommy-made clothes.
Now, folks, I hope you see how not a one of these things will amount to a hill of beansprouts in 5 years. Not a one. As a matter of fact. When I think of how guilty I felt over every one of these (and many more) I just laugh. I mean REALLY!!
So, the next time something happens and you feel that stomach-clenching-guilty feeling stop and ask yourself:
“Is anybody other than me gonna remember this in 5 years?”
No? Then stop the guilt train … It’s time to get off!
Haha — I love this! It’s so true! I’ve blogged a bit about it myself — both the unhealthiness of mother guilt (http://rosemary-sauce.blogspot.com/2008/01/actual-truth.html) and, on the flip side, how a little mother guilt can actually help a mom to be better (http://rosemary-sauce.blogspot.com/2007/10/mother-guilt.html).
And funny you should mention the cradle cap thing, since I’ve been avoiding dealing with my three-month-old’s cradle cap precisely because I don’t want to scrub his hair off … and I’ve been thinking that maybe I’m a bad mom for allowing it to remain on his head!
cradle cap can be treated also with topical niacinamide since it reduces inflammatory response and also increases skin healing.-
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